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Midnight Confessions (CET) on resigning from Plurk

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I just quit Plurk. Not because I was not enjoying it, no. Hell, it’s even the most fun and entertaining social networking tool I’ve seen in ages! (Although I have high hopes for Zivity. ;)) I met some interesting new avies - and even some of their humans - but somehow reality was catching up on me there. Let’s call it RL drama, which is almost as scary as the typical everyday SL drama. Basically, if you don’t feel free to write an honest 140 characters about what you feel at the moment, or interests you, or you’d wish for, you might as well not write at all? Else you’ll end up just plurking ‘Goodmorning plurkers’ and ‘goodnight plurkers’ and I forbid myself to drop to that level of social networking. :d

As myself, I hate vague and dramatic ‘I’ll quit messages’, I’ll share - some - details on why I’m gone:

  1. I felt certain persons were taking everything I wrote - although nothing personal, see #2 - to personal. I choose my live to revolve around no one but me - egocentric, maybe? - at the moment. Myself is already more than I can handle! ;)
  2. If I were to plurk my real feelings on certain matters - shortly and tactfully summarized: Invasion alert, to close! Leave parts of my life just for me, please. - I’d be evoking a lot of real life drama. Maybe I am now also. But somehow needed to get this off my chest.
  3. Someone I succeeded at successfully ignoring for a few months suddenly showed up. What I’d say if I were to send 140 characters? You really don’t want to know. I’m sure the person in question does not either. So we’ll just shut up.
  4. I honestly felt the urge to plurk ‘what the hell would we care, get a life!’ sometimes, which must sound rather strange from someone who has a full time second. :d But I resisted doing just that, and I’m not proud for that one.
  5. Because of above items, I dropped to the level of plurking I lost my car keys and other various random utterly stupid stuff. As I don’t want to lower myself to that level of social networking - I’m sorry, but time not well spend - I might as well say nothing.

So what about you? On twitter, your blog, facebook, plurk or whatever social networking gods recently invented, are you ‘totally honest’? Are you one of those people that post little unimportant details, or do you write openly about things - in your 1st or 2nd life - that really matter to you? What do you care about more: your ‘karma’, popularity… or the content of what you write?

Anyway, dear Plurk, it was nice knowing you. Lovely to write various, 140 characters maxed anecdotes off my chest. Fun experimenting with how to use you for blog-promo, what to write to evoke the most replies, to discover how easily people offer friendship. Maybe I did not take you serious enough, but limiting my thoughts to 140 characters was surely an interesting exercise. I’ll hop in from time to time to send a private plurk to people I do not have email for if I’m to lazy to log into SL. But that’s about it. Our relationship ends here. Mainly, because others are overly complicated.

So far for SL ft. RL ft. Plurk drama. Beat that, SL fashionistas! ;)

19 Responses to “Midnight Confessions (CET) on resigning from Plurk”

Kate Amdahl wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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That was a pretty interesting summation. It sometimes feels as though Web 2.0 is racing by and we’ll all be left behind if we don’t grab hold and ride it…but then, where are we riding it to? I lost my car keysland? OMG I love this song they’re playing on the radioland?

Oh, and Kit Meredith wrote an interesting retirement message from pretty much all the social networking tools, even if it wasn’t for such intriguing reasons: http://kitmeredith.blogspot.com/2008/07/throwing-in-web-20-towel.html

^^^\ Kate Amdahl /^^^

ArminasX wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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Vint, I am truly sorry to see you leave Plurk. In the brief few weeks that you were there, I really enjoyed your threads, which almost always were meaningful and profound. Except for the car keys incident, as you mention above. I felt I got to know you a bit better than before thru plurk.

You are right, the signal to noise ratio in Plurk, as in many Web2.0 services, is very poor. But I survive by quickly skimming through it all and I guess just having a good nose to sniff out the interesting stuff. I also do not see some threads, but I accept that because there are always more.

I ask you to reconsider your resignation, and try again. You might consider pruning your friends list to those that you value highly, or just ignoring a lot of it. If so, I hope I can stay on your list.

Raul Crimson wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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First, well, you know i respect any decision you take.

Second, about your question, i use in a different way Plurk than my blog, or even Twitter. I fell Plurk as a space to be in contact with some people i met originally in Twitter (even some in-world) and mainly i just use it for that. Twitter is more a mix, of what i feel or think in a determinate moment and some “hello, people”. My blog is more personal, sometimes just for expressing an idea or talking about what i see and like in my Second Life, what is my life too.

Nimil wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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i’m sorta curious why you didn’t just make your plurk friends online :s then you could enjoy plurk (if you enjoyed it of course) without the nosey people.

Willis wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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I am sorry you are leaving, I always enjoyed reading your plurks and following your links! *hopes she’s not one of the WHY DO I CARE WHAT YOU ARE DOING STFU people*.

I’m also sad I didn’t manage to make the meet to meet you! DAMMIT!

Sin Trenton wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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Interesting post, Vint!
I’m not a plurker myself, even if I am there. (My unimportant Hellotxt.com posts to Jaiku and Pownce automatically goes to plur as well).

“Moreove, some really interesting questions there.
On twitter, your blog, facebook, plurk or whatever social networking gods recently invented, are you ‘totally honest’? ”

Of course I am. Trust me. ;)
It depends on how we define honesty, I think. In contexts where my SL face (it’s just a face with data, I don’t separate my SL person and my RL person) is used, little is known about my RL data. Not a secret, not just openly stated. And I most often refer to things going on in SL at places like my tlog, not personal things. Is that honesty? Or dishonesty? Or neither? Am I honest if I write my opinion (like now), but you don’t have access to all data about me?

On my RL blog, yep, honest, rambling and pretty uncensored. Which is probably why I don’t share the address to it in SL, even if it’s not a secret.

“Are you one of those people that post little unimportant details, or do you write openly about things - in your 1st or 2nd life - that really matter to you?”

Yes and yes. On Twitter. I don’t use plurk, nor really Jaiku or the others. But what I truly like with it are two things. Instant updating everywhere, including mobile. Big hit to me.
And second, how do you define Twitter or any microblog for yourself? Not for others, for yourself. You can’t define it for others, and I like that.
Me, I refuse to define what, how and when I use Twitter, what to post and not, what to reply to and not. Who to follow or not. Follow, not friend, like that word even. So the answer to that question is ‘yes’, ‘yes’ and ‘more’

“What do you care about more: your ‘karma’, popularity… or the content of what you write?”

Love the concept of Karma! It’s the simplest, most stupid hoax to catch people using it, just like the old SL ratings, the popularity ratings or friend collecting on MySpace, the Who is Top Friend apps on Facebook, and so on.
Oh, and I like it as a commercial/social manipulation tool. On a personal, ethical level, I consider those tools as smelly as fermented herring.

Anyway, good luck with your future endeavour, wherever it will take you and through whatever channel it will come.
And remember, there is always the next, brightly shining thing just beyond the horizon, heading our way. =o)

Daman Tenk wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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I stopped using Twitter for about the same reason. I basically stopped using any and all social networking tools, except netlog for the RL me, since I have a lot of friends living on the other side of Flanders who I only see 2 or 3 times a month, and it’s how we keep in contact usually (since we’re all on MSN at different hours of the day).

Being honest - well. I don’t mention every little detail obviously. But what I say in my blogs (I have several. SL one, RL one, and then I am a writer at a cooperative SL fashion blog and a RL religious blog) - is the brutal truth as it is in my opinion. I realise it’s not making me the most popular with people. Lots of people get offended by me, but that’s the price I’m willing to pay.

Dakota Blackmountain wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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I’m sorry to see you leave, Vint, but of course you must do what you feel is right for you and I respect you for that.

It was great to meet up with you IRL though, hopefully next time you’re over here you’ll still come along.

Wolf Hartnell wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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It’s a fascinating area of social beheviour and I love meeting people that are willing to grab hold of these new social tools, shake what they can out of them, and be willing to drop them and move on, having learned a little more about themselves and communication in the process.

It intrigues me immensely that we are all ready to be so much more open with people online that we might be in RL. Not just about our lives but also our opinions. I spent a long time thinking this was about anonymity, the ability to walk away from someone you didn’t like, far more easily than you can in RL, but blog posts like this one get me thinking again. I wonder if maybe this is how we all want to be, open and honest, but social conditioning tells us we don’t do that in RL, and people who do that tend to be “frowned upon”.

Maybe all we need is time for us to re-educate ourselves to this new set of social rules, so that we can be honest and open about ourselves and our opinions, and respect that in other people, and most of all not to take it personally when someone else’s opinion clashes with something we feel strongly about. I think it will get easier with time, and if not for us then certainly for our kids and grandchildren. They’ll grow up in a world where this is the main way people communicate, and they’ll take all this stuff for granted.

Nimil wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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*peeks back at her comment* ugh.. i ment to say *friends only* not friends online…

CeNedra wrote a comment on August 11, 2008
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Although I don’t get to plurk as often as some, I will also miss you. It felt somehow more personal and for me allowed me to interact with some that I might not others feel comfortable talking to.

Many plurkers have blogs I’ve followed for a long time but rarely comment on because I don’t have anything significant to contribute to their posts. However wtih plurk, because it was less formal and more spontaneous, I felt more at ease commenting.

Your decision does make sense though and I respect you for it. Of course I’ll just have to starting commenting on your blog now ;)

Shockwave Plasma wrote a comment on August 12, 2008
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Most importantly..did you find your keys??? :-)

For me, Plurk is a bit of fun, a place to be silly..where I can do the equivilent of pulling silly faces at Kitty Lalonde, or Willow Zander.

I have about 60 people who i have as friends, and i think that is enough, but there are about 20 who I would say am friendly with. Vint being one.

But where you have people , you have drama. *sigh*.

Sorry to see you go.

Veyron Supercharge wrote a comment on August 12, 2008
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Sorry to see you go Vint. Perhaps the thing to do was to restrict your friends list and keep a private Plurk chain.

It is fun, and it is inane….

Vint Falken wrote a comment on August 12, 2008
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I do want to make clear to Miss Kate that I do not suffer from Web 2.0 allergy. Even more, I find the whole ’social networking thingie’ sometimes boring on average highly fascinating. :D

As for my plurktimeline to go to private & friends only, yes that might have been a solution, if pursued correctly from the start (and how could I know!) Although, that would have meant I had to reject and/or boot out some persons to/from the friendlist, which would have resulted in the same drama I’m trying to avoid. (And which I fear I did not succeed at avoiding, regardless.)

In the mean while, I have good news for you! (to make up for the case you should miss me over there) … Veyron, you better hold on to something! I wore one of my Calico Hair Styles you pressured me into buying! (and not that one great alternative style ;)) =D

Veyron Supercharge wrote a comment on August 12, 2008
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Whoohoo!! When are we going to see a piccie of it Vint?

Meebee we need to do another Veyron dresses Vint outing… ;)

Everytime I seem to dress you up you seem to end up liking it in the end. :D

Vint Falken wrote a comment on August 13, 2008
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Fraulein V … errr.. I mean, Miss V… lookie here. Don’t I even look almost human? (with a slight rash on my arms! ;))

Ganymedes Costagravas wrote a comment on August 22, 2008
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I’ve caught myself to sometimes blog about unimportant stuff, but it’ll still be something that (to some level) interests me.

What I do blog about, comes right out of the mind of my heart, and I don’t feel the need, or don’t have the time sometimes, to speak out.
My opinions and views on the uni/metaverse only gradually find their way out, that’s just me.

I never started to Plurk, but my Twitter is a bit… well it’s like with my 1st blog : it’s very close to getting into a vegetate state ;)
It’s a nice socializer, but at work I always need to go onto my collegues computer fot internet (I’m on hers as I type this) and since that isn’t always possible, I sorta don’t feel the need to put a lot of elbowgrease into Twiiter anymore, or similar sites.
And once I get home, I prefer to go on SL instead of being on social networking sites.

So, I’ll keep my Twitter account to let people know when I’ve uploaded a picture somewhere, or when I posted a new blog topic, but that’s about it.
For actual socializing I still prefer to be on SL or use Skype and GoogleTalk.

Just my € 0,02

Ganymedes Costagravas wrote a comment on August 22, 2008
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And, on an other note: why is it that I never get my buddy icon here???

Moggs Oceanlane wrote a comment on September 10, 2008
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I tend to say more in other people’s threads, unless i really have something to say.

I find lots of member of the SL community really interesting but don’t socialise a lot in world (perhaps partly because I’m the other side of the world, perhaps because there are so many interesting things to see and do that I’m off elsewhere). For this reason, I use social networks in general to keep up with what is going on in world and in related spaces - which it’s very useful for doing.

I’m not a big one for spilling my inner most life to the world but will answer questions and share commentary in context which might be why I say more in other people’s threads. Mostly I just ‘play’ on plurk while keeping up with what’s happening in the world of second life and beyond. On twitter I post the odd erratic comment. Flickr I post happy snaps, facebook I’m in because I wanted to join an SL related group but not under my RL me account.

I like plurk for it’s friendliness and it’s a nice friendly place to lurk if you want to find out what’s going on in world.

Blah Blah.

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