Not-a-meme #13: Secrets and confessions
April 1, 2007 2:27 pmI was flattered when Dolmere Talamaska asked me if I wanted to do the not-a-meme -lucky number- #13 challenge. At the same time we were talking a bit about how our ‘meta-blogs’ differ from real blogs. Personally I think we are more open and honest - about our 2nd lifes that is - on our meta-blogs. I’m rather sure that in first life Zoe wouldn’t tell her complete friends circle that she is actually a BDMS mistress and neither would tell Tiessa all her collegues that she owns absolutely no underwear that covers her butt.
But we still keep secrets, don’t we? Not only most of us keep our first live identities hidden, but also in second life there are things that we _just don’t tell_. So for this not-a-meme challenge, I challenge you to reveal some of those secrets. Do confess! Which secrets, you say?
- A secret about your second life. Something you’ve kept hidden from the rest of us until now. Something only a few intimate Avie-friends, or maybe even no one knows about. I want to hear about meta-sins. I want to hear stories of betrayal, about alts and being just a mean meta-person.
- A challenge for you to reveal a minor glimps of what kind of person you are in first live. Do you slaughter animals for a living? Do you always forget to keep the red and white laundry seperated? Do you have peanuts for breakfast? Do you feel like murdering the kids sometimes? It’s ok. You can tell us. We won’t judge you.
Here are mine:
Second Life
I have a lousy memory as it comes to names and that combined with avies constantly changing their looks, was a pole dancer’s worst nightmare. So I started taking notes. Writing down general information about the age, location, work, hobbies, … of the persons I was chatting with. When conversation ended, I noted a quick summary of what it was about, so I had something to start conversation with next time. So it actually looked like I cared. In 75% of the cases, I didn’t care at all. Not even a little bit.
That’s been a long time now and most of the person I ‘had on file’, I do not chat with anymore and are already long time removed from my friends list, but still, I think it wasn’t a very ‘nice’ thing from me to do.
First Life
I’ll even give you two glimpes in my first life. This selfportrait - which I took less then a year ago - and the fact that I do think there exists no better breakfast than peanuts. Except maybe for the daring combination of really black chocolate and an energy drink. And that that’s probably not helping me to gain the weight I so need to gain. And so want to gain. The weight that I probably don’t do enough effort for. (Yeah well. Besides that, there’s still ‘whois’. :d)
The Dutch word for ‘a meme’ is ‘een stokje’ and we have the habbit of tagging people that we feel should certainly answer the meme. I know this is a not-a-meme, but I must confess I’m ‘vewwy, vewwy, vewwy’ curious about Mygdala’s, Torley’s and Alidar Moxie’s darkest secrets. So consider yourselfs tagged anyway. ;)
And for the avies that speak dutch, take a look at ‘Secret Second Live‘. Tagline: ‘Stttt… can you keep a secret?’ and it’s sort of a PostSecret but about SL - and without all the lovely pictures. It’s the usual stuff - Is having a partner in SL that my first life partner doesn’t know about a sin? I gained six kilo’s since playing SecondLife. Transgender stuff. Being popular in SL but not in first life. I’m catholic in real life and a hooker in SL., … - but still interesting and sometimes even scary - I lost my job because of my SecondLife addiction.’ - to read. Anybody up for a PostSecretSL? ;)
Avies who took the challenge (on their blogs):
Dakota Buck - Secrets and Confessions (Yeeey! She’s back!)
Dolmere Talamasca
Meratalk
Aenea Nori
Rose Farina
Tiessa Montgolfier
Zoe Connolly
Wrath Paine (Who claims not to have secrets!)
Shockwave Plasma (Finally! ;))
Torley ‘Watermelon’ Linden
Kieres Tzara
Alyia Coanda
In the comments: (*points at the comments*)
Alexander Burgess
Andromega Volare (Stupid SL secret, btw!)
Tiana Meriman
Mygdala
Looker Lumet (Just a little bit, though.)
Veronique K
Coyote Pace
28 Responses to “Not-a-meme #13: Secrets and confessions”
Vint … what a great idea … I love this kind of stuff and have been a big fan of Post Secret for a few years now … both incredibly painful and amazingly funny at times. I love the idea that people have a forum to spill themselves open a bit, and with a delightfully creative edge. Love the idea of doing a meta-version. I have a few. Don’t we all? LOL
Oh, this is great. I can’t resist a dare/challenge either.
Okay, here goes:
Second Life -
This is a tough one. Okay, got it: I have a couple of submissive female friends who really like the very hard, bad-ass Alex Burgess. They like him because he is a very bad man. They know nothing about the fairly relaxed and casual AV, who often just likes to sit around chatting and shooting the breeze and who is generally a very flexible person. At the same time most of my non-D/s friends don’t realize that their funloving DJ pal is also into some heavy roleplay. At some point both sets of people are going to start to figure it out.
First Life -
In second life, my AV drinks and takes drugs whenever he feels like it. In first life, I have been clean and sober for many years.
And as far as a PostSecretSL goes–somebody grab that URL quick! Vint?
Hey Vint, you’re finally someone who does the same as me : taking notes on people I’m talking with.. I’m not taking notes all the time of course and I felt guilty … acting like a police man or a psychopat’. You give me some relief as I’m not alone anymore, I’m curious about what you wrote on me :P
LOL, don’t we ALL take notes on the people we talk to?!
Hmm… I haven’t taken notes on the people I talk to. But I think I’m gonna start now. Especially making note of all you notetakers. You’re all a bunch of mapping mappers!
About the PostSecretSL: then their should be a way to send in textures without knowing who created them. An anonymous submit form? On the site itself? That so non-SL. And for hosting lots of textures, my hosting account’s volume is large, but not endless… ;) And not speaking about the time it would consume. If I find four other avies that are willing to figure things out and help out, we might call it a go. *Looks at Alexander amongst others*
Glad to read I’m not the only thing that took note’s. But SL makes it that easy to do that too, with their ‘my notes’ tab. *In searching-for-excuses fase* I don’t think I have anything on file about you, we met after my note-taking-period, I guess. But I’ll check next time I’m in-world.
Loki: No, we don’t ALL take notes. At least, I’ve quit. :D
*impish grin* …if only you knew what it says on yours ….
Thanks Vint, my response is here: v
Mine is coming soon, Vint…
OK, I thought a long time about confessing my top-secrets, after two bottles of wine i decided to reveal:
SL-secret: I have had some fun with another Lady than you Vint! 8-/
RL-secret: I am not a human, I am a small stinky weezle
sorry about that, I hope you will still love me all ?!
P.S.:
sometimes I am a liar in SL and RL !
hehe i’ll face that challenge
second life: when i started out in second life everytime i logged in i hung out a lot in sex places and pick up many sugar daddys cause they loved my cyber skills
real life: i’m still a virgin at 24yo.
[…] Challenge #13 has been posted, courtesy of Vint Falken. This time around it’s to tell secrets! Similar to Dolmere, I was unsure of this one. Not so much because of the dealings with secrets, but because I think the challenges are falling a bit away from their initial intent, or at least as I understood it. So come on, folks, let’s make an SL challenge. I’m tired of talking about myself, I do that enough as it is. […]
Well, well, well, Vint, you asked for it, so now, behold, my inner world is yours for the taking!
Dark Secret #1: In SL, not only have I taken notes on other avatars, the notes aren’t even about *them* - they are simply to keep track of all the LIES I tell them about myself! Otherwise my many wild stories about my RL would be found out for sure. Damn I do hope those people never get together to talk about me…
which brings me to my NEXT secret, something so dark I have not even done it yet! But I will now since Dolmere’s blog gave me the idea.
2) I will now log in with my alt (yep, I’ve got one too) and pretend I am a RL friend of myself. Then I will hang around all the people I know and bait them into conversations about me! Then when they say something they think they know about my RL, I’ll tell them, “oh no, that’s all lies, she really is an accountant…” just to keep things interesting!
#3: I had a *feeling* that Andromega was a short weezle in RL but I was afraid if I told you that you’d shoot me with your amazing guns…
Not enough? Want to hear my real life secret?
#4: I had a SL secret #4 but it was so heinous that I deleted it! and now, for #5…
For all of my crazy behavior in SL, in real life my occupation is….
an accountant!
No, no, no, that’s not true. My real life occupation is…..a psychotherapist!
Whew. It felt good to get all of that off my chest. Thanks Vint!
I posted my response here!
I posted my response on my website.
Meep!
Zoe Connolly: Dear Diary…
ok, just a little one.
I wear glasses in SL but not in RL, and I am thinking of getting rid of them in SL too.
Basicly it was the intention of wearing sunglasses, but in fact they look like ordinary glasses.
mmm…2nd life secret? .. lot of it is already listed here…
* alt ? done that
* use alt to talk about my other me.. who is speaking at the moment??
* the free sex areas.. who can honestly tell she hasnt been there??
* IM-ing behind somebodies back… that is what it was invented for, no?
* I dont take notes.. I rather find fun in trying to maintain the different image I have with various people.. and not getting stuck in my own web… the adrenaline flows when 2 people from a different “group” and me are in the same place..
* I HATE IT (that is dark !) when I feel people take notes and try to “analise” me.. even more when they deny it.. ( and now you confessed KC !!!)
RL secret..
* contrary to the statement in my profile.. I am NOT a green frog in RL… I am a lizzard..
* even my RL email address is fake??
Hey, it’s not my fault that this not-a-meme question came out before I had time to come up with any secrets to confess!! It’s not like I haven’t been trying.
I knew I should’ve made something up so you’d think I was cool…. oh wait, then I’d have to turn around and confess that - - I just can’t win!
Finally
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Me too! Hoo-ha!
A tough challenge, but I finishded it.
I like to claim I’m not tricksy enough to have secrets :-). But…
“Something only a few intimate Avie-friends, or maybe even no one knows about.” - I find I reveal radically different things about myself to different people in SL. Different to the point that if people compared notes, they might think I’m gaming them. But no — and who isn’t a mass of contradictions, after all?
Here’s another for free: I sometimes take Profile / My Notes too, especially when I first meet someone. But when I get to know them, I try to find a bit of poetry that I think fits them, and put that into their Notes. Some people have found that rather weird ;-). But it’s fun.
Now, “a minor glimpse of what kind of person you are in first life” — well, “the dude driving [this avatar] is in fact”… a straight guy. That appears to be a revelation in some quarters — I’m not sure why! But maybe that’s a sign that I’m living my SL just right, for me.
Here’s another: in RL I mostly listen to classical and Yorkie folk music. Not too many venues for classical in SL!
[…] 2007: On demand of Dolmere I post my first not a meme on ’secrets’. In the mean time, I start to dress neko - just a fashion statement at that time - and Bella […]
my secrect is its my birthday an i never go work, i went to screw my ex wife 4 my present an i going home an do my gf 2
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